October 30, 2012
Kasoa
On a night w/o power nor water
I am almost getting tired of having both power and water
outage. Especially when this means melted ice cream packs and stinky bathroom.
U said it is hard to tell if she is dehydrated because of all the accumulated
urine in the toilet. I suggested that she watch the stream of her urine
instead.
But moving on. I watched with bated breath, the unfolding of
Hurricane Sandy back home. I am happy that DC (where my plane will land), MD
(where my parents are) and PA (where our Filipino house is) were all spared
from destruction. Since I am aware of how ‘lucky’ I can get with transits, I am
also hopeful that my flight out of Frankfurt will not get pushed back (as it is
I already have an 11 hour lay over during which I cannot leave the airport
because I have no German visa) and that by the time I arrive in PA we have both
power and water (because I need a break).
I still find it hard to believe that I am now tangibly
talking about departures and flights and such. Having only 2 full days left
here in Ghana, I feel the nostalgia seeping in. Now every place I have
frequented, every habit I have acquired, every food and drink I have ever consumed
since coming here have attained a certain finality to it. Today was the last
time I would go to Country Side Orphanage. Today might have been the last time
I would buy chocolate at Mama Joyce’s. Today was the first and last time I
would carry 15L of water on my head. Tonight might have been the last time I
would receive lessons on Azonto dance under the moonlight. Yesterday might have
been the last time I would eat red-red. And who knows, tonight might be the
last time I would not have power nor water (power of positive thinking). And
pretty soon I will say, today was the last time I rode a trotro.
Today for the second time I played doctor to the children at
the orphanage. It was refreshing to talk to teenagers and tweenagers this time
around, because they could talk and tell me if they had health concerns. My
favorite was a 15 year old boy whose concern was not being able to wake up at
the time he wanted. He said he would like to wake up at 4am but has difficulty
doing so and wakes up 1 or 2 hours later. I asked why he would want to wake up
at such an hour, and he said it was ‘for learning.’ He puts me to shame, this
boy. It must have been at least 7 years since I last woke up early in the
morning to study. The closest I have come to this is staying awake during a
night call to study. I don’t think it counts, because with this you don’t rouse
yourself from one of human’s most satisfying delights. You just stay awake; you
do not awaken yourself. It turns out that he sleeps late at night (10pm). I
explained that his body needs at least 8 hours of sleep each night and that
waking up at 6 when he slept at 10 is just his body’s way of saying --- I am
the boss, listen to me let me sleep. I
then asked him if he was good in class (I hoped he was, to give justice to his
efforts) and he said yes. His classmates corroborated this. He said he would
like to be a medical doctor when he grows up. I chuckled and said he was
starting early; indeed, I said, doctors are sleep-deprived. He apparently is the top in his class, but he
did say that he and his friend compete with one another so that sometimes he is
second to him. He said it so lightly, I had the feeling that for him learning
is a fountain of fun and play.
Another favorite is a 16 year-old girl who was complaining
of having menstrual cramps. I asked her what she takes when she has it and she
said, ‘banku.’ (mashed cassava and
corn)
Again I was amazed at how nice their teeth were! None of
them had bad teeth. None. Like I said I think it is because they don’t eat
candies nor drink a lot of soda here. Though their diet is carb-heavy they
themselves are not heavy. Today was the first time I saw an obese teenager. He
stood out. It took every ounce of my will not to stare at him.
Ordinarily in the States I would talk about sex with my
teenage patients. Here though it seems odd and out of place to do so. They all
seem so unadulterated. As an example, our helpers reportedly asked one of the
girls if you can get pregnant by swallowing sperm. They also wanted to know what
the color and taste of it was. I think this might have been when they read
parts of Fifty Shades of Grey that
one of the girls brought here before. I
don’t know if they also asked about S&M stuff, which I think the book is
heavy on. If they did, it would be like
getting a PhD before getting your high school diploma.
Condoms here are referred to as romantics. I think this name is too presumptuous. It assumes that
all sex are motivated by romance. But at
any rate, can you imagine summoning a romantic
in the middle of sex? Saying it is too long and tedious. I wonder if it’s
one reason why condom use is not common here. I remember one female patient
with HIV whom I spoke with. She confessed that she had not informed her partner
yet about her HIV status (can you imagine; it is almost criminal to withhold
such a thing). Initially she said they
always used condoms. Finding this hard to believe (I know that patients lie. I
know the fail rate of condom use), I quizzed her again and again. Later she
admitted that maybe sometimes they didn’t. It makes my head spin, how people
can be so stupid and imprudent.
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Unbeknownst to me until tonight, the Azonto is a dance style
that Ghanaians have popularized. It involves a twisting movement of your feet
and legs while gyrating your hips. In the meantime, your upper body remains
free to rave in different combinations; sky’s the limit. My favorite one at the
moment is the Azonto style they rendered on ‘Chop my Money,’ Akon and
P-square’s hit and hip single that is so catchy everyone here’s into it. So tonight to while the time away I asked J
to teach me the steps. J is the girl who lives with us and whom F sends to
school. And so in the darkness of power outage, the two of us were dancing in
our front porch to the music blaring from P’s cellphone. I tried hard, but in
the end I felt like a white dork next to J who looked very cool.
By now I think you might have sensed how I have hearted Ghana already. Ghana, the land
of trotros, Azonto, romantics and
plantains; of peace, easy brotherhood and religiosity; of haggling and colorful
fabrics; of beautiful smiles and straight spines.
It will be difficult to leave.